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07
May
25

Change

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Hump day!! Que the camel. Those commercials are great. The first time I saw it I thought “this is stupid” and then I was bombarded with it 79 times a day for 3 years straight until I started to yell “HUUUMMMP DAAAY” in the office. We fear change no matter what it is, distrust the unknown, and simply accept what is normal EVEN if it isn’t good for us. Why Bucky? What did I tell you yesterday about asking me questions?? Don’t worry I already forgot too.

Fearing the unknown is in our DNA. We are programmed to just go with what we know. That is why advertisers spend BILLIONS of dollars every year to show you their product over and over again. Insurance agencies (I hate them), food, beer, and on and on do this because they know if they get you to buy just one time you are likely to simply choose their product the next time instead of trying something new. Every thing you do has been calculated, discussed, and agreed upon in a board room somewhere two years before you make that decision. Creepy huh.

I recently heard a quote that has stuck with me and I’m going to share it with you. For free. Don’t worry I don’t expect you to do anything with it. Heck I’m surprised you have spent 45 seconds reading this blog. Please do not panic I assure you that video of puppies licking windows will can be there when you be done getting more smarter by reading this. Yeah I wrote it that way on purpose. Ready for some mind blowing knowledge? “If you’re not changing it, you’re choosing it.” Read it again.

When you accept something that means you are choosing it. I accept my salary. I accept my job. I accept my body. I accept my childrens behavior. That means you choose those things. No I don’t Bucky!! I want a better paying job, I want better health, I want my children to not act like a-holes…. You can say those things, but the facts are simple and everyone can see them. If you aren’t actively working to change the things in your life it proves you made the decision you like them the way they are. Yeah, I had to realize I was making crap decisions for myself too, but the revolution came once I had the epiphany that I held the power to improve EVERYTHING.

I just like this picture of Annie from yesterday so I added it. Back to actual blog now….

A simple 15 minute workout. Reading a book for an hour at night instead of watching a Criminal Minds rerun (love that show) for the 9th time. Putting the beer down and spending time with kids doing something constructive instead of leaving them to fend for themselves until bedtime. I’m not a parent, but it doesn’t take a genius to know kids just want you to pay attention to them and will do whatever it takes to get time from you. Why not make it positive is all I’m saying?

If you’re not changing it, you’re choosing it. I know you didn’t read it again like I told you so I decided to write it again. It is cool the more I write it the more I will follow my own advice. I write for me and simply decide to share with you. I choose to lead by example in everything I do. I’m most accountable to myself and believe you should do the same. Stop worrying about what other people think because they don’t give a crap about you. In fact they want you to suck. It makes them feel better about their crap decisions. The best thing you can do to get back at anyone that ever doubted you is to succeed and become amazing! I promise that will never happen if you don’t start doing something different.

FknBucky

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01
May
25

Grab an Allen… Wrench

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So much to talk about but so little time in the day. I thought it was Wednesday until a few minutes ago when my Mom told me it was actually Thursday. I have no idea how I lost an entire day, but eh, it isn’t the first time. I’m pretty sure I knew it was Thursday when I woke up, but while putting out fires all day the actual date meant nothing to the big scheme of things. I just realized tomorrow is Friday. Nice.

It is the small things that make the world awesome. You know the things you ignore while you’re flipping off the driver next to you for trying to merge into your lane. Yep you own it and if that SOB merges in front of you that means you suck as a person. Never ever let them get in front of you. Right now is the part where I’m supposed to say just kidding, but I see no point. You’re going to drive like a D-Bag regardless of what I say here. Make sure you get all the way over to the left and hit that cruise control at 1 mile over the speed limit. You’re in charge and the police need you out there keeping all those speeders in check. You are a superhero.

No sarcasm there brother. Funny the crap we put up with in life. I like to think of myself as semi-intelligent, but daily I’m reminded of how dumb I actually am. You know that little hose on the side of the sink we use to spray off dishes?? Well mine has been slowly getting less and less powerful over the years. It didn’t happen overnight, but I just assumed it got old, bitchy, and stopped putting out like most of the women I’ve dated over the years…. I use it mostly to fill up my water bottle that goes into my water cooler, but about 3 weeks ago it just stopped altogether.

I left it and just figured it was done for. I simply found other ways less convenient to do the tasks this spray hose used to do. Well today while maintenance came to change a light bulb in my kitchen I said “Hey you know that stupid hose by the sink doesn’t put out anymore.” The maintenance guy looked at my GF with a very confused look on his face. I pointed at the sink and said “HOSE”. We laughed. This is fun. He said I have a tool for that and pulled out an Allen wrench. There is another joke in there, but too easy.

He pulled the faucet off and cleaned out something. That stupid hose has more pressure than my new Trump shower head now. I can’t believe it. For the last 6 years I’ve dealt with that piece of crap not working worth a darn. All I had to do was ask someone and poof. Life is better with help. I don’t know everything and I’m happy to admit it. Sometimes we need a quick reminder that with a little advice from an unlikely source our lives can be better. Never shut down a conversation with someone simply because you have gotten used to things being the way they are.

There is some wisdom in there so remember if the stupid hose won’t put out, grab an Allen Wrench.

FknBucky

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23
Jul
17

Eat Your Beans

By Bucktown 2 Comments
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I recently had the pleasure of hosting my two nephews (10 & 13) for a little over a week here in the QC.  We had an amazing time with lots of laughs and in the future, I’ll share some of them with you.  We did all kinds of things including kayaking, paddle boarding, whitewater rafting, zip lining, drinking beer (that one was me), and just living.  We also went to visit some very good friends of mine that cooked up a barbeque with ribs, homemade mac and cheese, and of course some beans.

 

My youngest nephew was having the time of his life until he saw those beans.  It was like someone told him that Hillary actually won.  Ha ha. This isn’t political, I’m just having fun with you.  He dreaded those beans with true fear on his face.  I pride myself on being the cool uncle and play that role incredibly well if I may say so.  With that being said, it would have been very easy for me to say don’t worry about, you don’t have to eat those.  Why fight it?? SO much simpler and I get to be COOL.

 

I like being a prick though so I made him eat some beans.  It was comical.  They were pork and beans and he ate HALF a bean at a time.  Gagged and chugged water afterwards.  I was dying inside.  I’ve never seen anything so funny. I almost gave him another scoop just to keep the party going.  4 hours later (slight exaggeration) he finally finished his beans and we said thank you and goodbye.

 

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While we drove back to Charlotte a real conversation about life sparked up and I make a point to always be honest with the boys.  I told my nephew that I didn’t care if he ate the beans for dinner as it had nothing to do with that.  He asked “Why make me do it then?”

 

I told him “Because you’re a man in training, and as men we have to do things we don’t want to do all the time.”

 

Some of you get it and others think that he is only 10.  Let him be a kid.  Here is my answer to that.  He is a kid while swimming, playing, hanging with his buddies, and all the rest of the day.  If the adults in his life don’t teach him that sometimes you HAVE to do things you really don’t want to, how is he going to be a functioning adult.  God willing he will grow up to be an adult, but that doesn’t make him ready for the world.

 

If you don’t learn to overcome LITTLE things in life, how are you going to react when the world throws real problems at you?? I’ve had my fair share of challenges in life same as you.  Everyone has setbacks, beat downs, and sometimes life just kicks you for no reason, but it is how you react to those moments that make you the person you are.  Now at 38 years old I smile and ask for a bigger spoon!

 

I’m glad people cared enough about me when I was young to make me “eat my beans.”  I don’t pretend I know anything about being a parent.  I just know what it takes to overcome and that advice is good for anyone.  You don’t pick up a football for the first time at 26 and then go win the Superbowl right??  Those guys start at age 6 now and train for decades to make it.  Shouldn’t we expect EVERYONE to be training every day to be ready for what life might throw at you.

 

Life is going to come at you that is inevitable.  Rich, poor, black, white, boy, or girl we all know that it will hit the fan eventually. You can sit and wait for someone to “say it’s okay someone else will solve your problem.”

 

Or you can smile, grab a spoon, and EAT YOUR BEANS.

 

FknBucky

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