Posts Tagged ‘better

10
Feb
25

CHAMPION

Well that game sucked. Said NO Philly fans. I really thought it would come down to the last drive of the game, but that Super Bowl was over at halftime. The Eagles had Patrick Mahomes’s number and kept dialing it like a teenage girl on her first babysitting job in the 90’s. Teenage girls spend a lot of time on the phone and in the 90’s there were no cell phones so while babysitting a young lady could use the phone all she wants. I forget some people don’t remember the olden times. Over and over that Eagle defense pounded Mahomes like he was paying for it in the Big Easy.

Like a professional though they took the L, gave glory to God, and moved on. It is already time to start thinking about next season. You can lose the game, but still be a champion. How Bucky?? The same way the Eagles did two years ago. Mahomes is no loser, Hurts is no loser, and all of those athletes should be insanely proud of the work they put in all season. Chiefs fans have nothing to complain about today. That was a magical season and winning 12 games by one score AND having 12 comeback wins in the 4th quarter is amazing! What an exciting season to watch.

If Jalen Hurts had let the loss of the Super Bowl ruin him two years ago he would never have made it back to become MVP last night. Just 24 months ago he woke up listening to all the people talking after losing the big game to the Chiefs about how he wasn’t the one, he wasn’t good enough to win the big one, and how he was this and he was that. He lost that game, but was a champion inside. YOU just didn’t know it yet, he never had any doubts.

We live in an age with tons of information at our fingertips. I can google the recipe for Pad Thai, the shoe size Shaq wears, and buy a new bedroom set all from my phone in less time than it took to write this sentence. People’s opinions are readily available for every sucker begging to hear it. I’m going to tell you something important. The only opinion that matters is yours. How do you see yourself?? What do you believe yourself to be?? A winner, a loser, a nothing…..

I’m a winner. I lose a lot, but I will never quit. When my time is done on Earth no one will say Bucky is a quitter that gave up when things got difficult. Nope. All I want to do is earn the respect of my peers by working hard, staying strong, giving my all everyday, and becoming a better man each day. I want to encourage those around me to be better by example. That is an important one. Telling other humans to be better is different than showing the benefits of bettering yourself to those you love and care about. Leading by example if you will. Another one of those old sayings that will never become outdated.

Be a champion in your mind so you can become a champion in everyone else’s.

FknBucky

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30
Aug
23

Apple Cinnamon Roll

What up?? I have so many things to write about causing them to be all mixed together in my head. Maybe that is why I’m crazy. Or maybe it is still the simple fact that I live for chaos. The right kind of chaos of course. I follow politics pretty closely, but decided a few years ago I wouldn’t harp on it in my blog. The main reason is I need a break from all that BS and my overall goal is not to make you think like me. I already have that covered. Your TV won’t tell you that though. You have to agree with this side or you’re a ____. No you have to believe us or you’re a ____. Be yourself. Think for yourself. Most importantly learn for yourself. Don’t just accept what some a-hole on TV tells you. They have an AGENDA!

The thing is their agenda doesn’t matter in the real world. At least it should not. People screaming they will leave the country if this person gets elected or that person are eff’ing idiots and unfortunately never actually leave. All that talk is pointless BS that doesn’t make the world better. Learn to read the language of actions and in doing so you’ll be able to see people for who they really are. Now take inventory on your actions. Actions you are doing that will not make the world better should be stopped.. Sitting down on a road stopping people from going to work is not making the world better. Lucky for you I have an example. Why?? Because I love to make the world better.

Yesterday I made apple cinnamon rolls from scratch. I made homemade caramel to pour over them before and after baking. My first attempt at these ended up on the floor. It was about 11 PM and I was adding flour to the yeast mix and BLAM. I get a powerful spasm in my back and stomach which causes me to throw the bowl. Both of them. One with the eggs, butter, yeast, and the other a large bowl of flour. One big spasm and it was on me. The floor. My counter. It covered my trash can and the rug I have by the door. Now at 11:15 PM, I had a ginormous mess to clean and no cinnamon roll dough. It wasn’t Trumps or Bidens fault. Remember that.

Stupid mess. It took forever to clean. The ingredients mix together better when they are room temp, but I only set out enough to make the dough once. I did not plan ahead in case I had a “Timmy” moment and threw the bowl of almost dough against my wall. I had to clean myself, my wheelchair, the walls, the cupboards, you name it. At this point you may ask why was I baking these stupid cinnamon rolls anyway? Great question. Answer is: I just wanted to do something kind. I planned to take them into the rehab hospital for the PT and OT’s that work there. No special occasion, no birthday, nothing except I wanted to make some people smile while eating 10,000 calories per bite.

When is the last time you did something to give others a smile?? Take cookies in for co-workers?? Mow your neighbors lawn?? Go down and play checkers with the people in the nursing home?? Nope not you. You’re too busy arguing politics online with some moron you’ve never met in person. By the way that is the biggest waste of energy and time ever. When you are on your deathbed will you think “Damn, I wish I spent more time online arguing with people I didn’t know??”

No you won’t. I say stop it. Just stop being a creator of negative. Here is a piece of FknBucky advice or wisdom. Liberal, Conservative, Gay, Straight, Non-binary, Black, White, Trans, Lesbian, Fag, Midget, Disabled, fat, stupid, Man, Woman, Birthing person, or any of the other labels you choose to hide behind. Not me. I am a human. That is it. As for all that other crap. I DON’T EFF’ING CARE. I don’t judge you on those labels so why tell me?? Just shut up and make some awesome cinnamon rolls.

I wake up everyday and decide to have a positive attitude. Doesn’t always work, but I try. I remind myself to at least one act of kindness everyday for no reward. I just want other people to feel special and loved in this crazy world. If more people spent their time doing random acts of kindness the world would change overnight. Go watch a sunset. Just put your phone down and watch natures show. Wake up early and watch the sunrise. Listen to a storm. No facebook, Instagram, and no phone. Put the phone down and have tea party with your daughter. Take your nephews indoor skydiving. Let a little girl hold your service dog while you eat lunch. Pay for a strangers meal without telling them. Give someone a hug (not the creepy kind). Give someone a compliment. Be a friend to someone that needs one.

It isn’t the governments job to make the world better. It is YOURS!

FknBucky

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I don’t share these things to make people say “you’re so nice Bucky”. Truth is I don’t care about all that. I simply want to inspire others to do similar things.

22
Jan
22

Find Some Beauty

Happy Saturday friends. I woke up to 2” of snow again here in Charlotte. It is actually kind of fun and with my ”Companion” power add on I was able to take the same route as most days to walk the pup. She loves the snow. It is fun to watch her. Some of my friends made fun of me for buying her little boots to wear, but all of those friends will now have a rash because I paid a witch doctor to put a curse on them. The truth is who gives a shit what other people think. I’ve spent most of my life not giving an F. Without boots Annie is outside for maybe 5 min, but with them we spent almost an hour outside. She was happy. My face and hands have permanent frostbite and there is a good chance I’m actually frozen to my wheelchair. Dog is stoked though. If worrying about what others think makes you have a miserable 5 minute session in the snow compared to a super fun almost hour in the snow then it would seem an easy choice is upon you.

The other night I found some slushy ice in my apartment parking lot. It was in a part that gets very little sunlight and a good 4’ wide section behind the cars parked there. I was able to ”fishtail” my wheelchair using the scooter wheel thing. It was around 9 PM and I was laughing my ass off. It was so much fun. I turned around and did it again, and again, and again. I finally stopped when I went a little to far and almost flipped out of my chair. I was still laughing though. I’m sure people watching me do this think I’m insane, but I’m used to that.

I am not sure what I want to flip this all into. Getting around in a wheelchair with ice/snow,sleet is not easy. It would be very easy to allow this ruin my day, but I don’t. Why would I allow something I have zero control over ruin my attitude for the day?? I believe we all need to ask ourselves that question. It is okay to smile when the world is crumbling around you. It is okay to love someone full of hate. It is okay to forgive someone without making them feel like complete crap first. The world is full of beauty. It is everywhere. You just have to look for it.

The world is also full of crap. Loads of it. For some reason humans choose to see this world on a daily basis and I don’t understand why. They listen to the crap spewed out on TV. The pandemic, the evil republicans/democrats, the never ending drama, and all the other BS you allow into your head. This next sentence is important so pay attention. Make the choice to see the beauty all around you. Actively look for it instead of jumping on top of the first pile of crap you see. You don’t get it Bucky. There is nothing beautiful in my life. I don’t believe that simply because you are there, you are beautiful, and if you can’t see the beauty then create it.

When you create something beautiful the world gets a little bit better. Then next person that comes into that space will not focus on the pile of crap, but they will see you, the beauty that you are, and focus on the beauty you manifested. They will add to it. Creating a bigger beauty and soon with enough people the pile of crap will no longer exist. Don’t worry about what others are thinking. Be yourself, be kind to others, and actively work to make the world better every single day. When you do this I promise your life will change, the people around you will change, and this is how we change the world.

Don’t wait for someone else to do it. Stop fearing what other people will think. Be silly. Smile and wear the booties. Do some fishtailing in your wheelchair. Train yourself to see the beauty and not focus on the crap.

FknBucky

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20
Sep
21

Just Fix it

A lot of time has gone by since I’ve written a blog. Well one I’m actually going to share. It has been a hard summer personally for me and for a lot of people I know. I found myself going further and further into this funk that didn’t seem to brush off. I don’t know why and I couldn’t shake it off like I normally do. The hits kept coming. I’m strong, but even strong people only have so deep they can go. The deepest of wells that hold willpower eventually have a bottom. I came to the realization that no matter what I do next year is going to be harder than this one. The one after that will be harder yet. That is a tough thing to admit to yourself.

Truth is I need to get into shape and get my weight down. The COVID excuse is over and it is time to find some actual willpower. My shoulder is super sore. I have trouble transferring right now that leads me to fall trying to get into my van. Usually worse in the AM because of my spasms. When I lift to get into my van my whole body flexes and makes me go into the fetal position which makes it impossible to get my butt on the seat. Depending on the slope of the land around me my chair will either stay put or push away just far enough I can’t get back into it. Yeah I have to think that thru every time I park. I fell this AM getting into my van so that wound is still fresh.

I don’t tell you these things for sympathy, but rather so you see how real life is. I got up, continued my day with a smile, and left the anger, the hurt, and the weakness back in the parking lot. No reason to drag that bullshit around the rest of the day. I also found my way to shaking the funk off and it came from the easiest of things to do. Be myself. Just be Bucky and stop trying to analyze my problems to death. I’m fat. Lose weight. Pretty damn simple. We tend to overcomplicate the shit out of problems we face. Stop eating sugar/candy all day. Drink water instead of soda, Gatorade, and the rest of the crap. Willpower. Simple.

I also got back to doing for others. This is a huge part of my life. When my time is done and I’m standing at the gates of Big Bang Theory, I want them to say ”Wow Bucky, you made a difference everyday to someone’s life.” That to me is the most important thing I can do with my life. Just help others. Stop spending all day worrying about things you can’t/won’t solve overnight. I use my weight as the example here. Dwelling on it 24/7 is not going to speed the process up, but it will kill me on the inside if I don’t stop. Find ways to make the world better around you which will keep your mind from dwelling. You don’t have to go build a house with habitat for humanity right out of the gate. Baby steps.

I walk Annie in the same area almost every single day. There is a dog poop trash can that I deposit Annie’s little treasures into every day. I noticed on Thursday the lid was not attached any longer. The bolt had rusted out leaving the lid in limbo. This is a bag full of dog shit in 100 degree heat. To say it smells is, well true. It smells really really really bad. Having the lid on helps keep the smell down to a minimum. On Friday I went by and the lid is on the ground about 4 feet from the can. Not good. I thought man they need to fix that shit. Fast forward to Saturday. The lid is still on the ground and the smell is worse than Joe Biden’s breath. Hard to have fresh breath with your head up your ass all day. I instantly think “fuck it” I gotta fix this damn thing. It wasn’t hard and took very little time.

I went back to my apartment, found some bolts, and then went up to fix it. Two problems. First bolt was skinny enough, but not long enough to go thru both holes. Second ones were to fat and would not go thru the hole no matter how hard I pushed. So I gave up and said ”screw it”. Let someone else deal with it. ha. No chance. By the way if you are giggling at my bolts that is why we are friends. I went back to my apartment to look around for something to solve this problem. That is when I saw them. Almost standing with their hand up saying pick me!! You guessed it. Zip Ties. Suck it Poop Can. I’m came to win.

I put the lid back on and used two zip ties per side. It was dark outside and no one walked by while i was doing this so I’m not getting any credit for it. If you only do good things to get praise you need to rethink your philosophy. Do good things because it is the right thing to do. If you see something wrong and you have the ability to fix it, then do it. I grew up on a farm. You didn’t walk by problems with fixing it. It didn’t matter who was to blame for it, if you got credit for it, but it did matter it got done. Walking thru the barn and notice a bag of corn is leaking out then you fix it. Whether it was you or someone else, that bag of corn had to be picked up. We have gotten to a place that many people will say ”Look at that, how wasteful, someone should really pass a law saying corn should be sold in stainless steel packaging.”

Everyone is so focused on solving the problems of the whole damn country. Fix your own backyard. Help your neighbor. Stop trying to ”fix” some person in Rhode Island that don’t want you. Pick up that one split bag of corn and go about your life. Imagine a world where everyone took pride in their home and worked to make the world better by fixing their own neighborhood. Lead by example. Trust me, if you do it enough people will notice, and if you’re not a self righteous prick they will follow your lead.

Be awesome, be happy, and be the guy/gal that puts the lid on the shit bucket.

I hope you’re ready. FknBucky has a lot to say!

FknBucky

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24
Mar
21

Stupid Kids

Wednesday. Hump Day. Those darn car insurance mafia people have ruined hump day for me as well. I always think about that camel walking thru the office. I will gladly lead the rebellion when it is time that we all stand together against this common enemy. White, black, yellow, green, smart, stupid, guy, girl, oak tree, slutty people, not slutty people, tall people, short people, kind, mean, in between, and pretty much ANYONE on Earth except for the gingers. I do not want those soul stealing psychos on my revolution team. Dang it. I’ll take them only to keep them off Team Car Insurance and we get to put them in Joe Biden’s children cages until combat day. Oh come on, it is just one little dig on ya…. Funny the fake outrage people aren’t clamoring for TV time now. Tell me again how they aren’t manipulating assholes. Don’t fall for it. Damn I totally forgot what my point was today. I started writing planning to get around to something, but I can’t for the life of me remember what the hell it was right now. I blame a Ginger. One of you got to me!! ***I make fun of Gingers because it is funny and they have no souls***. Just in case you wondered.

Oh yeah now I got it. I have one of my nephews staying with me this week. Many of you that follow this blog know how much I enjoy being an Uncle and I take that role seriously. Read the “Eat Your Beans” blog as it is always a good one. Young men need to be taught and guided on how to be a man. Looking people in the eye when you shake their hand, speak with a purpose, think thru your actions before you start doing anything, and most importantly you get respect when you give it. Be kind, pay attention, and never let people treat you poorly regardless of the circumstance. Make good choices and realize that sometimes the right choice is the one that benefits you personally the least. The ME ME ME attitude that is so prevalent in this world is a social cancer. People need to learn the more you do for others the better your life will be, but this takes time and the instant gratification crew have no patience for that.

Having good character is more important long term than the instant feel good now things that puts other peoples feelings and needs second to yours. To have a fulfilling life you have to build a solid foundation of doing right by others everyday regardless of what is in it for you. Class is not only in session on the weekends, evenings, or when it is convenient for you. Nope. It is 24/7. Every hour of every day is the time to show young people what it is to be a person of substance. You don’t teach by lecturing when it comes to these lessons, you teach by doing. You want the young people in your life to be good humans then actively pursue being good yourself. They will follow and are soaking up everything you do like a sponge. Make sure they are soaking up the right stuff because that’s all you put out.

School can only do so much and truthfully if you are leaving the character of the young people in your life to be molded by public school then you‘ve already failed. I talk with my nephews like they are men simply because one day God willing they will be. When they do something dumb I point it out. Not to be mean, but the complete opposite. I want them to learn and do better. There are a lot of dumbass people on this planet simply because no one loved them enough to call out their BS early on. Teenagers are supposed to be stupid. It is what they are. It is up to grown folks to remind them constantly with the goal of beating every little bit of self confidence out of them. Ha. Obviously not true. Don’t just point out the mistake, take a moment to explain why certain words or actions are not the right way, and then show (not tell) them the correct path. Show them how to be better and how great life is when you put others ahead of yourself.

Kids pick up on things so let them learn by experience. Let them see the difference of walking into a room and not saying a word to the other people in that room vs walking into said room, introducing themselves to each person, looking them in the eye and shaking hands. I’m not a parent, but I will say this, when I take my nephews with me while working I get so many compliments on them for the simple thing of them introducing themselves correctly. That in itself must mean they‘re doing something right. It is never to early to start these life lessons. Simply ask yourself this question “Do I love the young people in my life enough to show them how to become a person of character or is it too much work??”

It doesn’t matter what task you do with kids it only matters you spend time with them. I can teach the same message while throwing a football in the backyard as I can baking an apple pie. None of these things are rocket science. Finish what you start. Don’t do things half assed. Be proud of your work and when you do something do it the best you can. No one is going to make fun of a boy that baked a pie if that pie is stupid awesome tasting. They will make fun of you playing catch if you miss the ball and it hits you in the face. At least I would.

Enjoy your life, lead by example, and simply find ways to be kind to others.

FknBucky

14
Feb
21

Cancel Valentines Day

Valentines Day. Great. Single people take the day off. I’m actually good with that, but I was curious how it all got started. I assume it was a money thing where companies like Hallmark lobbied people in the government to make a holiday in the down time between New Years and St. Patricks Day. Forcing men everywhere to buy a card or face the wrath of a woman that is not happy. I googled Valentines Day to learn the origin and I kinda wish I hadn’t, but I’m going to share with you because it is what I do.

There are a handful of stories that differ a bit so I’m just going to take the craziest one I found and run with it. Feel free to tell others later today using my opinion as absolute fact. Just like the rest of your life do NO research and simply believe what you are told. How is that working out for you?? If you are able to read between the lines I’m saying “read a book dumbass” because people don’t tell the truth. They tell parts of truth while making themselves or a group they are invested in look better in the eyes of the person hearing their story. You don’t have to worry about that here though. I will never manipulate facts to make me look better simply because I’m already perfect and trying to improve greatness like me is impossible.

So this Valentine guy (referred to as V Guy now) married an eleven year old hag who’s best days were clearly behind her. It gets weirder so hang on. In our cancel culture I have no idea how the “hate everything” mob hasn’t gotten a hold of this yet. So this V Guy is no stranger to married life though as he was first married to his 17 year old cousin when he was 12. They had to wait a year cause marrying an eleven year old boy is not acceptable. Thank goodness they had rules. He must of had a good time though because his first wife died giving birth. V Guy’s first wife was in fact already being recycled since she was actually married at age 6 because that is not weird. Age 6. I want to puke.

We fast forward to V Guy being 21 and marrying his 11 year old wife. At some point he was arrested for being something, but it wasn’t for being a pedo which makes me sad. While in prison he sent a poem to his young wife which is said to be the first “Valentine” and started the trend we still follow today. Here is that poem:

My very gentle Valentine,

Since for me you were born too soon,

And I for you was born too late.

God forgives him who has estranged

Me from you for the whole year.

I am already sick of love,

My very gentle Valentine.

Our guy was imprisoned for 25 years and never saw his young bride again as she past away before he was released. They had no children together. I don’t want you feeling bad for V Guy though because once he was released from prison he got right back on the Pedo horse and married a 14 year old girl at the age of 46. They had 3 children together. His children were name Cory, Karen, and Billy. I completely made those names up. Feel free to spread it around as factual though,. I’m okay with that.

I do not write this up to make light of Pedophilia because I would never ever do that. I have no sympathy for people that hurt children in this way or any way. In fact they should lose all rights including freedom forever. No second chances. Keep them in jail, kill them, put them on an island somewhere, but never ever let them back into society. I honestly don’t care what we do with them, but allowing them the opportunity to hurt an innocent child again is something we can NOT allow.

What I do make light of is the fact that regardless of what tradition we have or celebrate there will be some really bad shit that happened prior. The world and humans were awful when we look back at history. This being said, it is what it is. We can’t go back and change it now. We have evolved and eventually got it right. This will continue I hope. Maybe 700 years from now people will look back on us thinking what a bunch of barbarians. I’m okay with that as well. Things don’t change overnight, but the fact is they do change. Take pride in that. Looking back at history sooner or later we get it right.

So maybe stop trying to cancel everything and use our past to teach those that will mold the future. That is a powerful sentence so read it again. When we ignore the past, we ignore the lessons that were learned from those mistakes allowing the human race to evolve for the better.

So put something sexy on, light a few candles, and enjoy the day.

Remember to do something kind for NO reward. Just because it makes you a better person.

I appreciate you all.

FknBucky

I got my information from this web page if you want to go look at it. https://www.history.com/news/historys-oldest-known-valentine-was-written-in-prison

13
Feb
21

Be Kind

I want to write today, but I’m having trouble finding a good topic to rant or go on about. There is one thing that I have had on my mind for a while now and I think I’ll ask your help on this. I talk often about doing random acts of kindness. Just pick up a funny card and mail it to a friend for the hell of it. I do this and actually sent out 4 cards yesterday that I found on Etsy. Cost me $14 for the cards, used 4 stamps (and gave one away – you’re welcome Moonbeam!), and a few moments of my precious time to write something funny in the cards. Oh yeah I did put $40 in one of the cards and told the person receiving the card to please spend that money on something irresponsible and stupid. I do believe she reads my blogs so it might be you if you have a vagina. A real one and not the make believe kind that allows you to dominate women’s sports. I don’t participate or watch women’s sports so I don’t care to be honest. I do think it sucks for young ladies that put in the work, time, blood, sweat, tears, and all to get 2nd place because a one time man decided the competition was easier on the other side. Spare me your “hater” comments. I don’t care.

Okay back to the project I need help with. I want to start a page or group called Random Acts of Kindness where people can post what they did that day to a perfect stranger. If you just laughed at that sentence because your sense of humor is gutter, then that is why we are friends. I’m not looking for a place to brag unless you’re the type that needs that type of recognition. My reasoning is that hopefully people will want to post something so they actually do it. Over and over again. Maybe if someone shares what they did it will inspire others and give them ideas. Everyone keeps talking about healing the country and bringing people together, but if you are dumb enough to think the jerks in DC are going to do that you are going to be disappointed. A LOT. It is up to us to fix the divide in this country. Turn the 24 hours news channel off (forever) and go outside to hug a Trump supporter or a Biden supporter. It is that easy. In fact it is EXACTLY that easy.

The anger, disrespect, and over all nastiness regular people have some how become capable of is pretty disgusting. I am talking to you. I’m talking to all of us. It needs to stop and needs to stop tonight, right now, and never be turned back on. I don’t wanna hear Trump said this or that, I don’t wanna hear Biden did this and that, or any of the other BS excuses people are making to legitimize their horrible behavior and attitudes towards fellow humans. You are guilty of it. The comments of “If you think X, you can delete me as your friend right now.” That is a cop out, a crap way to handle any situation, and if YOU are so morally superior to the rest of us wouldn’t it make sense to go hug that person. Embrace them as a human and say we disagree, but I love you and want the world to be a better place so I’m going to be your friend and lead by example. I’m going to SHOW you why I’m right about this everyday of my life. Holy shit you mean what Bucky?? I have to actually be a bigger person, show the world how to be better, and stop TELLING everyone how much better I am than they are on the Facebook. You ask to much Bucky.

Baby steps I get it. So I would like to start with one random act of kindness. Just do one thing a day to make someone smile. Mail a card, tell a stranger their hair looks nice, make an extra sandwich to give the guy at the stop light on your way to work, or think of some other awesome thing that will make others say I can do that. Here is the deal. Sitting around waiting for the worthless pricks in government to suddenly pass a law that says everyone be nice is the dumbest idea ever. It is not difficult to understand or to do. Just be kind to everyone regardless of politics, race, gender, or any of the other stupid shit you allow to influence how you interact with others. You want someone to respect you and look up to you then treat that person with respect. Show them a better way. STOP telling people in a FB post that they are less of a human because they disagree with you. Seriously who the fuck are you??? I don’t remember electing any of my friends to judge me or others on a daily basis.

So now that I’ve got that off my chest how do I accomplish this??? I want to start a place (FB group or Page) that encourages everyone to simply be kind to everyone else regardless of anything past. Wake up tomorrow and look at EVERY single person on the planet like they have a brand new everything. A clean slate if you will. Wow, I bet we could make a difference in a short amount of time.

Do acts of kindness and expect nothing in return.

FknBucky

24
Jan
21

Are you a winner??

Sunday. NFC Champoinship game is on now and I get to watch the Packers play at least one more game this year. As I type this now we are down by 7 and Rodgers just got sacked on the 5 yard line. Damn it. I’m passionate about them and obviously want them to win. We all want our team to win, to be better than others, and we all love that feeling we get when winning. For most people it is addicting and you want that feeling all the time regardless of what happens to the “loser” or the other side. You want your win. Everyone is guilty of it one way or another. You don’t like football, take your pick on the other wins we gotta have including arguments with friends/family, proving a co-worker wrong, and the big one right now politics.

I had the pleasure of living next door to a NFL player for a couple years. He lived in the apartment right next to mine so I got to know him and his young family pretty well. I would tease him often about the Packers. Once I told him someone keyed his brand new HellCat charger and watched all the happy drain out of his face as I said “Yeah man, someone wrote GO PACK GO right on your hood. He laughed saying “you got me good there.” I share this as there is a point to my blah blah blah.

Time went by and that year in November the Packers came to town to play the Panthers. It was a crazy week leading up to the game and on game day I went to Packers tailgate party outside of the stadium as we all know Packer fans travel well. My good friend whom we call Rowdy won 2 tickets to the game and generously asked me if I wanted to go. Hell Yeah I wanted to go. Next thing I know I’m in the stadium getting ready to watch my team play the home team. For the record this was the day “I’m goooood brahh…” became a saying. The story behind that is a freaking great one, but you don’t get to hear that one today.

Prior to leaving for the tailgate party I had purchased a greeting card saying good luck and wrote a nice note in it for my Panther player next door. I came to really like him and his wife. It was funny he was always offering to carry things for me like the water jugs I get delivered, but I was scared he would pull a muscle in his back and then Panther nation would blame me for losing our cornerback. Okay getting off topic again. I wanted to wish my friend luck even though it was going against my team winning. I had been giving him shit for 4 months prior to this game and loved every second of it.

In the note I told him that to me it was simply a game. I wanted my team to win because it is natural and I wanted my “high” for the day. I thought about it that week though coming to the conclusion that it was just a game. To him it was his livelihood and the way he took care of his family. I realized it was bigger than me. In your rush to be right, to win, take a moment to pause and try to identify with who you are beating. There is a good chance you don’t know the back story, how that person got to where they are, and no matter how flipping right you think you are, there is a chance you’re not. Sometimes in life the end result that benefits you the most is not the best ending. I know in your selfish mind you can’t even grasp that concept.

The Packers lost that day. My neighbor shut down Randall Cobb for the game and it was great to see that for him. My neighbor was very happy when I saw him later that evening. He thanked me for the note and said the whole Panther team gave that note credit for the win that day. Okay that didn’t happen although he did thank me for the note. I ended up feeling better that night than I would have if the Packers won that game. I think about that day, that game, and that night from time to time when I need perspective on what is actually more important in my life and the lives of other humans.

It is the fourth quarter now so I’m done here. Just remember being a good human usually means doing the opposite of winning.

Go Pack Go.

FknBucky




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