Posts Tagged ‘decision

07
May
25

Change

Hump day!! Que the camel. Those commercials are great. The first time I saw it I thought “this is stupid” and then I was bombarded with it 79 times a day for 3 years straight until I started to yell “HUUUMMMP DAAAY” in the office. We fear change no matter what it is, distrust the unknown, and simply accept what is normal EVEN if it isn’t good for us. Why Bucky? What did I tell you yesterday about asking me questions?? Don’t worry I already forgot too.

Fearing the unknown is in our DNA. We are programmed to just go with what we know. That is why advertisers spend BILLIONS of dollars every year to show you their product over and over again. Insurance agencies (I hate them), food, beer, and on and on do this because they know if they get you to buy just one time you are likely to simply choose their product the next time instead of trying something new. Every thing you do has been calculated, discussed, and agreed upon in a board room somewhere two years before you make that decision. Creepy huh.

I recently heard a quote that has stuck with me and I’m going to share it with you. For free. Don’t worry I don’t expect you to do anything with it. Heck I’m surprised you have spent 45 seconds reading this blog. Please do not panic I assure you that video of puppies licking windows will can be there when you be done getting more smarter by reading this. Yeah I wrote it that way on purpose. Ready for some mind blowing knowledge? “If you’re not changing it, you’re choosing it.” Read it again.

When you accept something that means you are choosing it. I accept my salary. I accept my job. I accept my body. I accept my childrens behavior. That means you choose those things. No I don’t Bucky!! I want a better paying job, I want better health, I want my children to not act like a-holes…. You can say those things, but the facts are simple and everyone can see them. If you aren’t actively working to change the things in your life it proves you made the decision you like them the way they are. Yeah, I had to realize I was making crap decisions for myself too, but the revolution came once I had the epiphany that I held the power to improve EVERYTHING.

I just like this picture of Annie from yesterday so I added it. Back to actual blog now….

A simple 15 minute workout. Reading a book for an hour at night instead of watching a Criminal Minds rerun (love that show) for the 9th time. Putting the beer down and spending time with kids doing something constructive instead of leaving them to fend for themselves until bedtime. I’m not a parent, but it doesn’t take a genius to know kids just want you to pay attention to them and will do whatever it takes to get time from you. Why not make it positive is all I’m saying?

If you’re not changing it, you’re choosing it. I know you didn’t read it again like I told you so I decided to write it again. It is cool the more I write it the more I will follow my own advice. I write for me and simply decide to share with you. I choose to lead by example in everything I do. I’m most accountable to myself and believe you should do the same. Stop worrying about what other people think because they don’t give a crap about you. In fact they want you to suck. It makes them feel better about their crap decisions. The best thing you can do to get back at anyone that ever doubted you is to succeed and become amazing! I promise that will never happen if you don’t start doing something different.

FknBucky

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25
Dec
22

Decide to Take a chance

Crazy. Simply crazy on how fast time goes by. It was so slow as a kid, but now I seem to blink and I’m ten years older. I’m sure I’ve told this story before, but it is a great lesson that I hope will motivate a few of you to take some chances. I was talking with my Grandfather one time when I was about 16ish. He had just turned 80 or was about to. He said “I feel like one moment I was 20 years old, then I blinked and I’m 80 years old now. The tone in his voice and look in his eyes told me this was no joke. He simply told me that life is over before you know it. In my mind I thought, I’m not wasting anymore time.

By taking chances I don’t mean put $500 on black at the casino although I have done that. I was on a roulette table in Vegas one night when the number came up black say 8 times in a row which gets posted on the sign. When that happens tons of people start throwing money on red. This time was no different. There was easily $5,000 or so put down on red when this random guy came up and threw $500 on Black. That lone chip on the black with stacks of chips on Red. I looked at the guy and said “that is ballsy!! I said lets play and put $500 up on black with this lone guy. We won. Black 22 which is one of the numbers I bet. That and Red 5. That was cool moment in life.

Life is short so don’t waste time on dumb stuff. It is Christmas. I’m surrounded by family in Alabama and I love it. I truly hope all of you are as well. If you’re not then you should make better plans for next year. When I talk about chances I mean important things. Go back to school and get a degree. Ask the girl out you’ve had a crush on for the last 10 years. Get drunk and text every girlfriend you’ve had since the 3rd grade. Trust me they are waiting by the phone at 3 AM to get that text. This is not an advice column. Apply for a job you want. Move to a new place and get a fresh start. You may need to change your name if your drunk text look like mine…..

That talk with my Grandpa really resonated with me. I decided that I would not waste time on things that I can’t control. I moved to Colorado without ever being there before. I’ve had lots of jobs in my life which I’m proud of. It has helped me learn new things that I never even dreamed about. I’ve moved multiple times as well. I went to San Diego by myself one year after being paralyzed. Ahhh, That stupid accident. I screwed up and pay for it every day of my life. Sucks, but I’m not going to let it determine my value as a human. No way.

When I got to San Diego I worked out at a gym called Project Walk. It was a “rehab” for spinal cord patients. I wanted to walk so badly. I pray you never know how hard this is. I am the strongest human alive. No doubt in my mind on that. The gym had other people in chairs so I made some friends pretty quickly as that is what I do. 3 or 4 days of being in Cali, I was invited to a house party for another project walk guy. I was going in blind. I got the address for the party and wondered what I should do. I looked in the mirror and asked a question that I’ve asked myself thousands of times in the last 20 years. “What would walking Bucky do??”

The answer was clear. Go to the party, be myself, rock the place so anyone that didn’t know me at the start of the night would remember FknBucky forever. That is exactly what I did. You have to manifest your own great moments. No one is going to show up do it for you. Life doesn’t work that way. Muscles are good, but a strong mind is what will enable you to be great. Read the books, learn to listen and think before speaking, and make friends with people that have what you want to be. You want to smoke meth, go make friends with people that smoke meth. You want to make more money, go make friends with meth heads. Ha. Don’t do meth.

Your life is a result of all the decisions you’ve made in life. You can make all kinds of excuses, but that is what it is. If you want your life to change, you simply have to make different decisions. It is that simple. Eat less candy, go to the gym, get a library card, find a successful business owner and buy them lunch, go to work early & stay late, and on and on and on.

Merry Christmas my friends.

Love Who You Are Today, Tomorrow is Not Guaranteed.

FknBucky

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