Posts Tagged ‘friends

24
Nov
22

UnThankful

Turkey Day. Family. Being thankful. I drove to Alabama yesterday which sucked. Too many other drivers on the road. I wish I could just zap them all to disappear like ships in the Bermuda Triangle. For the record, I hate people.

I say blah to Thanksgiving. We pass it over and head straight to Christmas anyway. Some say it is racist. A racist holiday to spend time with your loved ones and take a day to express your thankfulness for all the blessings in your life. When you explain it like that, it makes total sense. Stupid racist Thanksgiving people. I say we switch it up from now on.

Take this Thursday in November to be a selfish prick. Eat all you want, diets be darned, and fall asleep with your pants unbuttoned with the NFL games playing on TV. Make it 24 hours of all about you time. Thankful. Not today.

Instead of being thankful one day a year, how about we be thankful 364 days a year. Take the one day to hate on everyone, get drunk on wine all day, and eat a huge meal you most likely did not pay for or help prepare. Don’t thank the cooks. Eat with your hands after 7 tequila shots while cursing in front of the kiddos. I just described every holiday of my 20’s…

I just find it fake. It is like 9-11 when you post a “never forget” meme, but forget about it the next day. Did you donate to a fund to help first responders with illnesses directly from being at ground zero??? I’m making a point. I’m so “thankful” today. Tomorrow AM I will be complaining that I don’t have as big of a TV as my neighbor and that is society’s fault. My neighbor works overtime while I spend my free time drinking beer and smoking weed, but it is not fair he/she has a nicer car than I do.

Okay I’ve beat you up enough. You don’t need a holiday to be thankful and appreciate the blessings you currently have. You can start by no longer measuring your happiness with things. Happiness is a choice, an emotion that cost no money, and if you don’t have a lot of it the only person to blame is yourself. Be accountable for you and own your choices. Best part of that is every single day you can wake up and make new choices. Choose to read a book, take a class, call an old friend, end a feud with a loved one, or anything. Pick someone and do a kind thing for them randomly.

About a year ago I decided to send my niece handwritten letters for fun. Getting mail as a 7 year old is a pretty big deal. It takes 5 minutes to write up a message and maybe $.50 for a stamp. I wait for no holiday or birthday. I just do it. I put some cheap stickers in it and I’m told the excitement is massive when it shows up. I’ve gotten a couple letters in return, and it is pretty exciting to see a crayon colored butterfly mixed in with credit card offers and hospital bills. I’m thankful for those butterflies every time I open the fridge. Best art in my home.

My overall point is this. Make every day of your life Thanksgiving. Appreciate the blessings you have right now. A wife, girlfriend, kids, friends, family, food, clothes, shelter, neighbors, and all the rest. I come across a lot of unthankful people everyday and honestly it makes me sad. Negative energy is contagious. Here is a mind blowing thought. Positive energy is also contagious. What do you want to be known for??? If you want things to be different in the future change the decisions you make today.

I truly hope all of you have blessed day with friends and family.

Love Who You Are Today, Tomorrow is Not Guaranteed.

FknBucky

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03
Dec
21

Tragedy and Smiles

I want to share a story with you today. A very important one that I hope will open your eyes, your heart, and help motivate you to count your blessings instead of constantly wishing for more. There is a club that no one wants to join. There is no name for it, it has no leader, and it is guaranteed that all members wish they could unjoin. It is a club of tragedy. Accidents that change the body is the cost of membership. I became a member April 1st, 2002 and have been dealing with it every single day since. This isn’t my story though.

I volunteer because I am able to help and I know that. I offer my everything to the people I talk with at the rehab hospital. I will answer any questions no matter how personal, help with any equipment they may need or want to know about, and I’m happy to talk with family members that want to learn/understand how to best help the loved one that is going thru this physical nightmare. I’ve probably talked with at least few hundred confused/scared people over the years and I’m very proud of that.

Travis and Staci Hoyle gave me permission to use their real names in this blog. Travis was injured a couple months ago and is currently using a wheelchair. I want to express one thing here very strongly. It isn’t your business how it happened. Don’t ask. Ever. It is not okay. Don’t say I’m one of those people that just blurt it out. Travis will tell you if he wants to. Instead do something easy. Talk to him like you would without the chair. He is the same person today as he was 6 months ago. Bust his balls, call him ugly, give him a hard time about driving a Nissan, or whatever else you normally do.

The Hoyle’s have a tough road ahead. It isn’t impossible, but it is hard and they will need that 4 wheel drive of his F150, (it is actually a 2004 Nissan 4×4 Supercharged) to get thru it. “Travis made sure I corrected that.” I have no doubts that they will. This is a strong family from what I have seen. Leave your pity at home. Nobody needs that crap. Bring your happiness, smiles, never give up attitude, and instead of asking for details on what happened say ”I know you got this and I’m here if you need anything.”

I see strength, fear, and determination in Staci and Travis’s eyes. It is okay to have fear because everything is new and we fear what we don’t know. The strength they have has nothing to do with lifting weights. True strength is in a persons mind, it is strong to accept reality, it is strong to smile first thing in the morning and say I can do this, it is strong to remember you’re not the only one going thru this, and most importantly it is strong to acknowledge other people are hurting as well. Pity parties are stupid and worthless so have a strength party. Challenge everyone around you to use the strength God gave them to overcome this obstacle. Once again I will say I have no doubt they will overcome this, but friends and family have a HUGE role to play to make that happen.

Unfortunately bad things happen to great people all the time. It is unfair and makes me want to scream at nothing sometimes. 20 years of membership and yes sometimes I still have moments of extreme weakness and anger. The key is to not live there. Accept the emotions, work thru them naturally, and get back to living your best life. Avoid the ”what if” hole because it simply leads to depression, anger, and regrets. What if I didn’t go, what if I didn’t stop for coffee, what if I didn’t date her, what if what if, and more what if. That is pointless because no matter how much you torture yourself it will not ever change the outcome.

You don’t have to be Travis and Staci to use the advice above. Everyone has hardships in life, hardship plays no favorites, and facing it head on is the right course of action. There is a benefit for Travis on Sunday. I’m told the 300 available tickets sold out very quickly. Money is always welcome and helpful, but kind words and genuine caring is fuel for the fighting spirit alive inside of Travis and Staci. This is not an easy road, but once again it is not impossible. The only thing different is Travis got a lot shorter and won’t be running up any stairs for a while.

Remember as this battle goes on that smiles and laughter are okay. In fact they are a must. Focus on the things that make you smile. Watching your kids succeed at anything. Holding your partner in front of a fireplace on a rainy night. Laughing with your friends while telling old stories. One of my best friends growing up and I would always yell when Welcome Home (Sanitarium) by Metallica came on. It is a random thing, but after my accident while having a tough moment in life that song come over the radio. I was instantly transported back in time and smiled gratefully that I was still alive to enjoy that memory. It is okay to be happy while dealing with tragedy. To this day every time I hear this song, I’m instantly 19 years old again, yelling at the radio with my friends while drinking a Busch Light.

It is easy to find reasons to be unhappy, mean, and ungrateful. True strength is when you put all those aside and find one reason to smile. You only need one. Kids, wife, family, friends, pets, food in your stomach, warm place to sleep, and so on. You can choose to be happy in horrible situations. In life when we are forced into situations beyond our control it is important to concentrate on the one thing we always have control of. Your Attitude. It is easy to smile at the end of the trip, but more important to keep that smile and positive attitude going during the journey no matter how long it may be.

I hope everyone who reads this will share it. You never know who needs to hear the message above. If you can donate money please do and then share this message. If you can’t send money I only ask you share this message so others will see it and be able to help.

Count your blessings. Be grateful for the people in your life. Truly grateful for them.

FknBucky

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We still need Justice for Ryan Cooper. Please come forward if you have any information. As Russell Crowe said in the Gladiator “We will have our vengeance, in this lifetime or the next.”

30
May
21

Memorial Day

Life is pretty awesome when you allow it to be. We live in America (most of us as I have some very distant readers) which is the greatest country in the world. Mainly because I’m here. There are a lot of people, millions of people in fact, that we will never get to know. They are impossible to meet. They laid their lives down to protect future generations in this country. In my opinion you owe them the respect to understand exactly how big that price was they paid. I love reading history. There is so much we didn’t learn in high school or college. Simply posting a photo on social media of a widow at a gravestone is not showing the respect all of those fallen soldiers deserve. You are free to stand on a street corner and yell “America Sucks”, “America is racist”, or “America is the devil” because of brave men and women you will never meet.

This country isn’t perfect, but no where is. Simply look at where we used to be compared to where we are now. Eventually we get it right, but it never happens overnight. I say this A LOT because it is true. You can’t HATE something or someone into changing. You can love someone so much they have no choice to trust you and learn from you. You take the most racist white power asshole out there and when you scream HATE at him/her you only fuel that hatred. Set that same person down with a black person that only shows love and compassion to them for a real conversation. That changes things. Even the biggest of ignorance can not ignore that all those feelings of hate are based in fantasy land.

Being wrong is okay. It is okay as long as when reality slaps you in the face, you learn the lesson and change your heart. On this Memorial Day weekend please take the time to understand the freedoms we enjoy 365 days a years did not come cheap. America isn’t perfect, but we have the freedom to change. We have the freedom to lead by example. We have the freedom to chase our dreams. Ignorance, evil, and just crap people are never going away. No matter how many laws you make, catchy slogans you come up with, or how many people you hate for good these type of people will always be there. Learn to identify them and then forget about them.

On another note I wanted to share a cool story. Years ago on Memorial Day I wanted to honor those that gave up all for my freedoms so I drove to Balboa Park in San Diego. Awesome place by the way. They have numerous museums for this and that. I had no plan and just went. I ended up at a military museum that honored some remarkable people who did extraordinary things when the need arose. I am fascinated at the strength some people have in the hardest of situations. Without a doubt stories like this help me daily to deal with my own challenges. Remember people don’t judge you on the problems you face, but they do form opinions about you from the attitude and strength you have facing those problems.

I was in this museum for about 15 minutes when some guy came up and asked if I wanted to meet “Gunny”?? I had no idea what the heck he was talking about, but of course I said yes. He took me into the back room where all the drugs were. Wait wrong story. When the door opened I rolled thru it and there he was. R Lee Emny. Mr Full Metal Jacket himself. I thought well this is a cool surprise. Turns out he was there as a spokesman for WD-40 to give a check to some Veteran charity. I believe it was Wounded Warrior Foundation, but not 100% on that. Point is I had no idea, but I was able to talk with him for almost an hour in that back waiting area.

He was awesome and had some great stories to share. Fun how sometimes things just happen. The world is a pretty amazing place full of incredible people. Take the time to learn from individuals outside of your circle. As we get older our circles seem to get smaller. My favorite thing in the world is talking to people from somewhere I know nothing about. I didn’t even know Estonia was a country until I met a girl from there. I think it is in Australia. Ha.

Use this day to show respect and appreciation to those that gave their lives for an idea of freedom. Learn their stories, teach those that look up to you to have respect, and mostly simply lead by example.

Get your FknBucky shirt ordered! I appreciate you all.

FknBucky

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23
Mar
21

Pick Your Lane (Mine has Pie)

I’ve been MIA for a couple weeks. I had to take a step back as the world of negativity was creeping into my life. Thank goodness all I have to do is turn the channel, not visit news websites, and simply let it go. Not always easy to do, but at the end of the day it is that simple. Once this COVID thing started being a ginormous pain in the butt I started to cook/bake things simply to see if I could do it. I love to challenge myself by doing things I’ve never done before. The first item was an apple pie from scratch. I love apple pie so it just made sense. I learned to make pie dough from scratch which is way easier than I thought it would be. Time consuming, but easy. Then I found a recipe online I liked and went after it. I did burn my mouth licking the whisk which I managed to record and then put on FB. Hey if you can’t laugh at yourself, you’re doing life completely wrong. I believe the link below will take you to Bucky burn land. You’re sick in the head if you want to see me in pain!! Haha

https://share.icloud.com/photos/0ngpkL8zNKAhKvZD5_cvVU4kw

Once I knew how to make pie dough I realized I can use it to make my own chicken pot pies. I bought the mini pie pans and boom this turned out super well also. I always chop up fresh veggies like carrots, onions, and celery to put in whatever I’m making. I have the time and it just makes everything taste better. Here I am now an Apple pie champ, mini pot pies in my freezer ready to go anytime, and I need a new project. A neighbor girl mentioned she likes cheesecake. Hmmm I like cheesecake too, so here we go. Find recipe…

My first attempt was blueberry cheesecake. When I was getting ready to put the mixture in the pie pan, I remembered my mini pans. Mini cheesecakes. Genius. I went this route. There is an overall point to this blog today and I’m about to get to it. I made blueberry, raspberry, and Oreo cookie cheesecakes now and once again they taste awesome. Somewhere along the way I wanted to learn how to make caramel as well which turned out to not be that hard. You need to stay focused and pay attention to it, but not difficult once you understand how sugar melts. Very similar to heroin if you are an intravenous drug user. I made that up. Just making sure you are still paying attention.

If you have read my blog before you know I encourage people to do random acts of kindness. It is something I strive to do every day of my life while never expecting anything in return. A kind word or a thank you is more than enough. Over the weekend I made blueberry & raspberry cheesecakes. An idea I had a while ago was to use the homemade caramel and put it on the bottom of the cheesecake so it will cook into the graham crackers making a caramel crust. It worked. I also put a ring of caramel around the top crust that would melt down the sides giving all the crust a caramel flavor. That worked also. They are stupid good.

I also make a chicken tortilla soup from scratch that is very popular with my friends and family. I made a ginormous batch of it over the weekend for a purpose. On Monday I was going to the VA Hospital for an eval with a Veteran. Eval just means we look at his challenges, lifestyle, and environment so we can get him the correct equipment for his life. I do this a lot with my work and I love it. Knowing I was going to be there on Monday I thought it would be cool to take a bunch of soup and cheesecakes for the staff. All that practice now had a purpose.

All those pots are filled with soup. The Copper one has tofu instead of chicken for my Vegan friends. No one asked me to do this. Certainly no one expected me to show up with a ton of homemade food. I just like to challenge myself making things that are on my list of favorite foods and then share them. So that is what I did. I did get some very kind messages back today which again make it all worth it.

Examples:

  1. OH MY!!!!  LOVED IT!!! I am not there today and I was thinking it would be worth it to go in so I can have some more of the soup!   It was absolutely wonderful- the flavor was magnifico! Thank you so much and the avocado was so good with it. Oh and yes the cheese cake – well that was just evil because I am really trying not to have sugar and sweets and I couldn’t resist it and that just blew that!  Thank you!
  2. Oh my Goodness!  I planned my response in my head, but I forgot to send it.  It was wonderful.  I mean simply wonderful-as in you have a gift!!!   Oh my God!   

If you are not purposely working to send out good vibes on a daily basis then you are part of team negative. I’m by no means a perfect human. I’m very far from it, but I have learned in my 42 years that I feel better about myself the more positive things I do. Allowing myself get caught up with the negative BS that is on the news everyday, listening to people complain all day, and letting stress to dictate my mood make me feel like crap. So at this point in my life I can only think “Why in the ____ would I want to choose the feel like crap lane??? No thank you. I’m going to live my best life, keep doing random kind things, and actively work to make my world a better place which will by default make the entire world a better place.

What lane are you in??? What lane do you want to be in?? No blinkers needed, no jerk calling your Mom names, and most importantly no matter how long you’ve been in the wrong lane, the right one has unlimited space and you can go as fast as you want!!!!

Choose positive my friends and lets change the world one act of kindness at a time.

FknBucky

P.S. There in free pie and cheesecake in the Bucky lane. Just stop on by anytime!!

18
Feb
21

RIP Rush

Wow. I used to think that 70 years old was completely ancient, but the closer I get to it the less “old” it really sounds. I have no idea how old I’ll live to be and to one hundred percent honest I don’t care. I am in no hurry to cash in my chips, but hey at 42 I’ve had a lot of fun in this world. I’ve made some amazing friendships with people that I simply adore. I can go to any state, almost any city in the USA, and reach out to an old friend that will invite me in without worry about how many years it has been since we’ve last spoke. To me this is wealth, it is my value in the world, and I believe I am undoubtedly one of the richest men on the planet. If you woke up tomorrow morning with absolutely nothing how many doors could you knock on for help??? Whatever that number is, that is your value in the world. Truth is hard sometimes.

I spend a lot of time in my car. I have listened to Rush Limbaugh plenty throughout my years. Many times disagreeing, but I’m happy to hear ANY point of view as it gives me things to think about which is my favorite hobby. Thinking. Analyzing peoples views with facts and how my personal history and experiences shape who I am as a person. That is the beauty of it or what is supposed to be in America. This cancel culture to anyone with an opposing view is dangerous and ugly. You don’t win an argument by screaming SHUT UP at the person you are debating. If you are so much more correct than the other side “use your words” as we tell three year old children.

I read EVERYTHING I can daily. I sponge it up and then form an opinion based on what I want. At 42 years old you aren’t going to tell me anything or somehow shame me into changing my mind. I have an incredible amount of respect for Rush Limbaugh and it is a really sad day. I have looked at some left leaning websites, TV channels, and have been appalled at the vile and incredibly awful things people had to say. Even great generals in wars have respect for the other side and treat each other in a humane way. It is easy to be kind to people that think exactly like you, but the true character of a person is how they treat people they disagree with. There are a lot of people who failed that test and to me it is so sad.

Take politics out of it and Rush gave MILLIONS to different charities along with his time which we know is our most precious asset. Disagreeing with someone is not a reason to speak ill of the dead, to wish someone burn in hell, and all of the other insanely mean comments I have read the last 24 hours. This entire holier than thou BS with people somehow believing they are going to OUT HATE the people they have differing opinions with is crazy time. Hate is hate. If you are spewing that crao out there you are no better than the people you are supposedly “HATING FOR GOOD. Can there be a stupider sentence?? I’m hating for a good cause Bucky. Nope you’re fucking moron. Sorry Mom, that needed an F bomb.

Rapist and murderers on Death Row have to be treated with respect you scream and with the same breath you scream Rush Limbaugh was the DEVIL and needs to burn in hell!! How many millions have you given away to help those less fortunate?? How many volunteer hours you clock this month?? Nope you’re a keyboard warrior thinking somehow you are better than everyone else because CNN told you so. Grow up. You’re an intolerant asshole screaming like a small over tired child and I hope you take a step back to witness yourself.

Regardless of where you fall on the political spectrum the world lost someone great yesterday. Either a great foe or a great friend. It doesn’t matter, the same amount of respect needs to be shown to them. You don’t do it for Rush Limbaugh or the person that has passed on, you do it for yourself. It takes a much bigger person to say “he was a worthy adversary and I will greatly miss debating him.” To type mean and hateful things does nothing but show me the true character of a person and that deep down anger and negativity is not needed in my world. You stay over there with your 2 “friends’ and have you’re little hate filled Victory party that someone is dead you disagreed with. Be sure to judge everyone else by your incredibly low moral bar you have now set.

So be respectful. You can change the name in this blog from Rush to Obama, Jimmy Carter, or even Nancy Pelosi and the message is exactly the same. All of these people have actual loved ones at home that depend on them, care about them, and are grieving right now. Is it so hard to just shut your judging, self appointed better than everyone else status, and simply say RIP. I have no problem pissing people off with what I say or do and most times I do things simply to get you to react exactly as I thought you would. You have a meltdown, call people names, and then do all you can to make sure that opposing thought is silenced. Silence people by being the bigger person and show the next generation what it is to be respectful of those you disagree with. That is called grace and using it is awesome.

Let me know exactly how many minds you’ve changed by screaming “shut up” at someone. I’d bet everything I have possession wise that number is zero. Of course it is their fault because you’re perfect. Nope you’re a jerk. Okay I’ve beaten that horse to death. Here is the point today. Simply look at the positives in moments like this. It is the correct thing to do no matter how hard you think it is.

RIP Rush Limbaugh. My thoughts and prayers to your family that is trying to make sense of the loss they have just experienced.

If you feel like doing something mean or typing something negative walk/roll away and find someone to do something kind for. You’re inner person with thank you for not planting a few more negative seeds (reference to yesterdays blog) and just maybe someday we can all have a civilized talk about what to do to make the world better. Actually no, we don’t need another conversation. You and I simply need to be kind to each other, those around us, and most importantly be over the top kind to people you disagree with. Watch their reaction.

I appreciate you all. If you have a meltdown and say ”I’m never reading another blog Bucky“ then enjoy that.

Do random acts of kindness and expect nothing in return.

FknBucky

17
Feb
21

Secret to Life.

Want to know the secret to life?? Make life fun for the people around you. Mess with people. You don’t have to be vicious or mean, but mess with their head a little bit. The first and most important step is to learn how to laugh at yourself. This is also a skill. Stop taking the “life” thing so seriously. No one gets out alive. You only get so much time. Here is the deal if you make an effort to make people in your inner circle feel good about themselves and laugh, your life improves. Now ready for the real mind blowing simplistic fact?? Imagine if everyone did that. If everyone on planet Earth could stop thinking about themselves and scheming on how to get more for ME the whole world could change overnight.

In the military the soldiers don’t fight for freedom back home, or for the right for some jerk to be able to burn the American flag, but for their brothers next to them. They put it all on the line for the guy/gal on their left and right. Freedom and flag burning jackhole are the results of this brotherhood and trust between those on the battlefield. When the bullets start flying they fight to keep the ones next to them safe and understand that those 2 people are doing the exact same thing. Together they are stronger and do not bend.

We don’t have any bullets flying at us or it doesn’t happen to often anyway, but we do have sour puss people in our lives that simply want to drag you and anyone else around them down into the poor me level. Don’t give in. It sucks down there. Say enjoy your trip into crybaby land, throw up some deuces, and be like peace out. Then avoid that crappy person for the rest of your life. Don’t worry they will find some other sucker to listen to the constant bitching, and together they can wallow around in the “world is too hard” mud together.

The world isn’t hard, you’re just a human that gets exactly what you deserve. You think negative, creating a basket full of crap thoughts, and then throw your negative seeds everywhere you go. Sooner or later that first negative seed starts to grow. And then another grows. And another. Pretty soon you have created a big fat negative forest that you live in. Of course you cry to anyone that will listen about how did this happen?? You freaking created it. That is what happened. You wanted the poor me sympathy from anyone who would willingly give it to you and then you just kept going. There is no one to blame but yourself and I’ll believe that until I’m killed by a gang of Chinese hookers at the age of 56 while out for a morning jog. Never ask a witch in the forest how you die. Lesson learned here the hard way.

Learn to smile. Learn to look at setbacks as learning opportunities. Learn to embrace others in your life warmly and leave your BS at the door. They don’t want to hear it. We all have stuff to deal with. You’re not special. I will gladly help anyone that needs it when I’m in a position to do so. You can ask anyone that knows me personally I am one of the first people call because they know I will help if possible and that I won’t hold back if I feel they need a kick in the ass. Don’t ask to borrow money. Chinese friends are expensive so I have no extra cash. The reason nobody likes you is because you don’t like yourself. It is sad and I wish it wasn’t the truth for so many, but when you have all this negative energy spewing out of you it is impossible to be happy alone because you suck.

So fix it and stop complaining about how you never catch a break all the time. The breaks are there. They always are, but when you are hell bent on crying about “poor me” those opportunities roll right on by to the next person ready to take advantage of them. Good things happening don’t come with a flashing light and hundred dollar bills raining from the sky which is what your lazy whining butt wants. No. They come in the shape of hard work, waking up everyday and getting after it, and believing in yourself. I can think of a dozen people I would like to tattoo this message on their chest, but I don’t waste my time anymore. If you aren’t willing to fix yourself, I’m not giving my energy to you. Nope, I say hello politely and then move on because my life is short and I’m going to take advantage of every opportunity I can identify. Wasting anytime in the crybaby mud hole isn’t for me.

So get after it. Smile A LOT. Help others. Go out of your way to help those that appreciate it, but always expect nothing in return. Expecting nothing means you can feel good about your deed and not have the let down thoughts like “I was sure person X would go on Facebook and tell everyone how great I am for helping.” If this is what you want stay home. You don’t get it. Simply put be happy you’re a good person inside and let that be enough because in the grand scheme of things this is the ONLY thing that truly matters.

Be kind to others and remember random acts of kindness make you a better person.

FknBucky

29
Jan
21

Pull your pants up

Okay it isn’t morning anymore, but I went back and forth on publishing this. I question how much I want to share about my personal shit, but in the end if I can help one person say “You know I could do better..” then it is completely worth it.

Friday morning. I’ve been up for a few hours already as my leg spasms have been brutal lately. They will literally kick nonstop until I get up. Worst alarm clock ever. The smile you see me with takes work. It is easy to be in a pissy mood or upset at things that are not perfect in life. It isn’t like I wake up, put my happy to be paralyzed pants on, and come out into the world to be an inspiration to you. Nope that is not how it works.

Usually my legs start kicking around 4 am. This followed by me rolling over 20 times praying I’ll find the perfect position to let me sleep another couple hours. It has been 18 years and that position is still a mystery to me, but I’m no quitter and still try every morning. Once I get angry enough I usually curse my legs, the bed, air, Obama, Trump, and anything else I can think of until I focus on Annabel. Then I have to use my nice voice or she thinks she is in trouble. Next time I train a dog I’m going to make yelling angry Bucky my normal voice and she will be in trouble when I start talking like a pansy.

I usually spend 10-15 minutes trying to get my pants on first thing in the day. My spasms make it extremely difficult as they fight me every inch. Annie also thinks my pants are the greatest tug of war partner ever. I mean my legs kick at her while she is fighting my pants so she is like game on!! It is funny cause I tell her no every time, but she always be back again. I guess she is no quitter either. My morning spasms are so strong that I have to back up next to a wall, my bed, or anything while putting pants on because they will spasm violently causing me to fall over backwards. This has happened more times than I can count. When I go over backwards I know my head is going to hit hard and then right after my paralyzed leg/knee comes down also hitting me square in the nose which freaking hurts. This creates next level anger and cursing. A kid once asked me how many swear words Murphy knew. I answered all of them.

I have my moment laying on the floor, then i figure out a plan to get back into my chair, and get it done. I don’t share this for sympathy or for anyone to say “oh poor Bucky” because that is not needed. I share for two reasons with the first being getting things out of my head. Once I tell someone or put it down on paper I can forget about whatever it is that has my panties all twisted up. The other reason is it is good for everyone to be reminded that your “stuff” is not all that bad. Whatever you have going on it can always be a 1,000 times worse. So enjoy your Friday. Enjoy your weekend. Most of all enjoy your life.

It is always a choice on how you approach the day. How you interact with other people is a choice which you get to make every single day. If you have been a negative asshole (You know who you are) your entire life the best thing is you can change TODAY. Boom just like that. Good things come to those that expect them. I’m not going to let something as trivial as putting my pants on ruin my day. That would be be stupid. How does that conversation go??

Person: “How you doing Bucky?”

Me: “Worst day ever. I had a hard time putting my pants on. My life sucks.”

Person: “Ahh okay. Well I got to go. Hope you get better.” Walks away muttering “Fucking weirdo.”

Just doing that there makes me able to see things for what they really are. Stupid little things that need to be forgotten the moment it is over. Not dragging that shit around with me all day. If you read the blog about anger you will get this reference. I take that anger brick about pants and I throw that bitch back. I’m blessed in the fact I have pants. I have a ton of them. High quality pants. I grew up poor on the farm with only 2 pairs of pants. Good pants for church and barn pants that were covered in shit all the time.

I am not willing to give up the good things I have in life because putting pants on is hard. It most likely isn’t pants in your life, but there is something that gets you daily. Choose to let it go instantly. Don’t let it grow roots or start attaching itself long term. Identify whatever that shit is and say okay that happened, but I’m moving on with a smile. Take this exact moment to do a random act of kindness for a stranger. You will forget about all the trivial shit in a heartbeat.

Do kind things. Always. Life will be instantly better.

FknBucky

24
Jan
21

Are you a winner??

Sunday. NFC Champoinship game is on now and I get to watch the Packers play at least one more game this year. As I type this now we are down by 7 and Rodgers just got sacked on the 5 yard line. Damn it. I’m passionate about them and obviously want them to win. We all want our team to win, to be better than others, and we all love that feeling we get when winning. For most people it is addicting and you want that feeling all the time regardless of what happens to the “loser” or the other side. You want your win. Everyone is guilty of it one way or another. You don’t like football, take your pick on the other wins we gotta have including arguments with friends/family, proving a co-worker wrong, and the big one right now politics.

I had the pleasure of living next door to a NFL player for a couple years. He lived in the apartment right next to mine so I got to know him and his young family pretty well. I would tease him often about the Packers. Once I told him someone keyed his brand new HellCat charger and watched all the happy drain out of his face as I said “Yeah man, someone wrote GO PACK GO right on your hood. He laughed saying “you got me good there.” I share this as there is a point to my blah blah blah.

Time went by and that year in November the Packers came to town to play the Panthers. It was a crazy week leading up to the game and on game day I went to Packers tailgate party outside of the stadium as we all know Packer fans travel well. My good friend whom we call Rowdy won 2 tickets to the game and generously asked me if I wanted to go. Hell Yeah I wanted to go. Next thing I know I’m in the stadium getting ready to watch my team play the home team. For the record this was the day “I’m goooood brahh…” became a saying. The story behind that is a freaking great one, but you don’t get to hear that one today.

Prior to leaving for the tailgate party I had purchased a greeting card saying good luck and wrote a nice note in it for my Panther player next door. I came to really like him and his wife. It was funny he was always offering to carry things for me like the water jugs I get delivered, but I was scared he would pull a muscle in his back and then Panther nation would blame me for losing our cornerback. Okay getting off topic again. I wanted to wish my friend luck even though it was going against my team winning. I had been giving him shit for 4 months prior to this game and loved every second of it.

In the note I told him that to me it was simply a game. I wanted my team to win because it is natural and I wanted my “high” for the day. I thought about it that week though coming to the conclusion that it was just a game. To him it was his livelihood and the way he took care of his family. I realized it was bigger than me. In your rush to be right, to win, take a moment to pause and try to identify with who you are beating. There is a good chance you don’t know the back story, how that person got to where they are, and no matter how flipping right you think you are, there is a chance you’re not. Sometimes in life the end result that benefits you the most is not the best ending. I know in your selfish mind you can’t even grasp that concept.

The Packers lost that day. My neighbor shut down Randall Cobb for the game and it was great to see that for him. My neighbor was very happy when I saw him later that evening. He thanked me for the note and said the whole Panther team gave that note credit for the win that day. Okay that didn’t happen although he did thank me for the note. I ended up feeling better that night than I would have if the Packers won that game. I think about that day, that game, and that night from time to time when I need perspective on what is actually more important in my life and the lives of other humans.

It is the fourth quarter now so I’m done here. Just remember being a good human usually means doing the opposite of winning.

Go Pack Go.

FknBucky

21
Feb
20

Parking Madness

FF564D62-FA7E-4BFD-98EA-B8E3602E318DLet’s get right into it. I will never understand the individuals that believe it is okay to park in a handicap parking spot.  I see it every single day.  Charlotte, NC is actually one of the worst places I’ve experienced for this problem.  If you can walk be proud of that shit and walk an extra few feet leaving the close up parking for people that might actually need it.  I tell people if I get my legs back I’ll skip everywhere I go.  Heck, I’ll park two blocks away in the rain just to skip a little further.  Plus no one get abducted while skipping.  It is a safety thing.  Okay back on subject here.  Jessica Alba is so damn hot, wait what was I doing, oh yeah parking….  Seriously what is wrong with your head that you don’t get that parking in a blue man spot, in between them, or in any way screwing them up for people that need them is a crappy thing to do???

281B8AAD-825E-4A8A-9CE4-330CB20742A0I saw this truck today while walking a friends dog.  This might be the dumbest thing I’ve seen since the last time I saw someone parked like this.  Like I said it happens way to much.  I don’t personally care about parking close to the building that I’m trying to go in. I just need the extra space so that I can open my car door the whole way.  When I park in a regular spot someone parks too close to me and I can’t get in my own vehicle.  This means I have to ask a random stranger to back my van out.  I don’t like having random people driving my car ever, as I think all other drivers suck.  My bad I meant to say I KNOW they all suck.

This part is my favorite.  What do you think it is??  Oh yeah the apology.  Which is complete bullshit.  You had the ignorance to park there, might as well own it. Come out and say “Stupid cripples should just stay home” or maybe “Old people are a nuisance and walk too slow, screw them”.  To simply throw “I’m sorry” out when you get caught doesn’t mean a thing.  You’re not sorry you did something awful, you’re just sorry you got caught.  You’ll do it again and again because you simply don’t give a shit.  Don’t act like you do care because if you did, you’d NEVER park in those spots.  It is that simple.

BA6F7B30-ED81-475C-ABD9-AA6591F02B3AMy friends in Charlotte learned how much this happens in the last year.  I would mention to them about the parking lot of a particular establishment we would meet up for prayer meetings.  Yes that is my story, moving on.  After a while they would start to look at the blue man spots to see if they were open or had cars in them that should not be there.  Now they were getting angry.  I have to let it go right after I see it or I’ll be pissed off all the time.  They had to learn this as well.  This problem happens every single day.  Maybe it is because I’m out so often and have more chances to see assholes parked illegally or maybe it is really that problematic.  If I let a parking issue ruin my day I would have A LOT of ruined days and per the last blog I’m not willing to give these idiots one of my days.

In life we all have to decide what kind of person we want to be.  This is not difficult.  It is as simple as parking in a handicap spot or not.  If you park illegally in a handicap spot you are choosing to be a shitty person. Enjoy that.

Think about it.

FknBucky

15
Jan
17

Cruising…..

You can’t see me in the picture because I’m standing on the ledge taking the photo. 

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Been a while since I’ve written something for this blog, but I told myself I would be more motivated for 2017.  Something nice about the freshness of a new year, a new city, and new opportunities that says get out, put yourself out there, and make changes in yourself or this year will be the exact same as the last. You can’t control others around you so do yourself a huge favor and only concentrate on what you can control.  Yourself.  Want to make more money read a book.  Want more friends??  Be a good one to the ones you already have.  Pretty simple, but if you have plenty then do this year exactly as last.  You will get the same result.

I recently went outside of my comfort zone and wanted to share parts of that with you.  Kind like a tribute to the awesome individuals I was lucky enough to share the experience with.  Ha ha.  We all know that isn’t true.  They were lucky to share it with Bucky.  It went exactly as planned with no craziness at all.  Right….  Stress is for others because I have learned time and time again shit will always happen.

First I fly out to Miami to meet up with some old friends and some new old friends. I did not fly into Fort Lauderdale, but some of our people did and only missed that crazy bastard by about 20 minutes.  I will never understand the mindset of someone that wants to hurt random people.  I truly hope there is a hell so these individuals can go there.  I met lots of people on the ship with stories of being stuck on airplanes for hours, stuck without their luggage, and all kinds of craziness.  Made me sad to think this was an intentional act.

We had a great night in Miami regardless and I love South Beach.  Mainly because the women were so covered up.  The reality show filming at the bar we took over was a great memory as well. No way our group wasn’t getting on TV.  I loved every second of it. Totally worth the punishment.

We get on the ship without to much problems unless you count the worst Uber driver in history that waited at a red light behind a parked car with no one in it for 5 minutes.  I tried to explain to him the damn car was parked, but he didn’t speak English.  Not even when I yelled “It’s parked” really loud.

He smiled and said “It’s good” over and over.

It was awesome. A 3 minute Uber drive took 20.  Those of you that know me well understand I was very patient and happy to wait with him.  :/  Okay on the ship and cocktails start flowing.  Wheelchair, drunk friends, and massive ship…..  What can go wrong??  Only one answer. Who cares.

I was happy to be a part of the group and involved.  Laughing, experiencing, and to me this is what the purpose of life is.  Getting out and seeing what the world has to offer.  Being around people that don’t always think exactly as you do.  I thought of at least one hundred reasons since July of why I couldn’t go on this cruise, but in the end I only needed one to make sure I did go.  I wanted to be a part of this experience. The rest is just details.

15965064_10155084881186337_8764302563750283592_nWe had 15 foot waves and it beat the crap out of the ship.  We never made it to Grand Caymans or Jamaica because the ship was rerouted.  I met plenty of people on the ship that were upset over this, but what can you do??  Just roll with it. Why let something so trivial ruin a good time??  We ended up in Cozumel, Mexico and finally got off the ship.  I took one look at the taxi vans we needed to use so that all 17 of us could get to the resort and thought no freaking way is my crippled ass getting up there.

I was semi right.  I made it in, but with lots of help and some learning along the way.  I ended up laying on another man who I’m pretty sure felt me up in the process.  I told him he had to pay for it like everyone else, we had a good laugh, and then I was in the van.  Once again it would have been very easy to skip the adventure because of an obstacle.  How many good times do you miss because of some tiny problem???  Here is a bigger point.  I crawled, was lifted, and felt up into 4 van rides over the next 3 days.  The first one was anything but pretty.  The second one was slightly better.  We kept doing it until it was easy.  We had a plan and what was seemingly impossible two days earlier went like clockwork.  What I mean is stop being a pansy.

15972541_10154656155416928_3222943602722743518_oI could go on and on about this wonderful experience I had last week, but some of it will get me arrested…  Oh wait international waters ha ha.  Oh well next time you will have to just come along to know exactly how crazy things got. There was lots of dancing, a BEARBIE shirt, Star trails, tons of rolling around, hugs to the floor, amazing new friendships, huge shots, I love “chants”, ex-girlfriend moving out stories, fully clothed hot tubing and half naked sandwich ordering, Mom and Dad trying to find the lawn,  and most importantly… If You Don’t Like It!!!!

FknBucky

 

P.S.  It was truly a pleasure to meet all of you that were along for Marge’s B-Day Cruise.  I hope that we all stay friends for a lifetime.




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