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24
Sep
21

What if vs when

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Another week comes to an end. Summer 2021 has come to an end. In a week we will be in the last quarter of this year. How does time go by so fast?? I do quite a bit of reflecting on my life. I don’t mean looking back with regrets, but looking back to see how much progress I’ve made on my goals for life. I only have one question for you. If not now, then when??? When will you start your own business, when are going to travel to the place you dream of, when are you going to talk with the cute girl at the office?? If you start looking at life with ”when” instead of “what if” you will find it to be more rewarding.

What if is what dreamers ask. They secretly wish this and that happened or will happen with no real plan. Days, months, and years go by without any tangible progress towards the ”what if” you keep saying to yourself. What if I move? What if I go back to school? What if I talk to her? What if I go out on my own? While asking yourself these questions can be useful, it can also lead to negative thinking that always finds a way of coming true. In life you ALWAYS get what you think about. Read the book ”The Secret” if you haven’t already. If you have read it again. The issue of asking “what if” is the answers you give yourself. If I move, I won’t have friends there, if I go back to school and fail, if I talk to her she might not like me, and if I start my own business and don’t make it????

The negative answers always come and now you have already been unsuccessful without doing a darn thing. Seems like a bad plan to make your life awesome. Change your way of thinking by simply using a different word. When I move I’ll have the opportunity to start with a clean slate and the reality is your friends aren’t going anywhere. When I go back to school I’ll be on my way to building my self confidence, learn new skills, and be on way to making more money doing something I love. When I talk with her I may find out she has been waiting on my dumbass to say hello. When I start my own business I can finally start to do things my way and stop making others money.

I started my own business 2 years ago. COVID didn’t help, but there will always be challenges. If it wasn’t COVID there would be something else to overcome. Regardless of skin color, gender, rich, poor, sexuality, or any of the other labels media and politicians use to divide us there will be problems. If your parents did their job you will have no problems identifying them and solving them. You don’t understand Bucky. Some random guy called me a racist word in the grocery store parking lot. Perfect now you have an excuse to be angry and complain the world is against you. You give a lot of power to some ignorant moron you’ll never see again. I say ”Fuck that guy.” Not literally. Move on and forget it. Explain to me how arguing with idiots helps you reach your goals…

The beauty of being a ”when” thinker is you will subconsciously start to put a date on it. When I talk to that girl tomorrow I’ll know if she is interested or not, allowing me to stop wasting energy on the ”what if”. You might find out her Dad is the racist you ran into at the Piggly Wiggly which helps you decide if you want to raise little white power babies. Racism isn’t funny Bucky. Thanks for pointing out some obvious shit. Now move on and take this big sack of worthless anger with you. I hope one day you learn to just leave it and not fill that sack up in the first place. Lots of great people in this world, don’t waste time on crappy people, and learn to ask yourself “when” instead of “what if”.

Many times the things that I write are a reminder to me instead of a ”lesson” to you. I get caught up with the anger, the sadness, the fear of failure, and the worthless habit of blaming others for my problems. That last one will be another blog coming soon, but for today I really hope you use this blog as motivation to reflect on your own life to see what questions you’re asking.

I wrote this at 4 AM this morning, but just getting around to sharing it now. Not sure where this all came from, but it sounded good to me. I’m a when person and not a what if.

FknBucky

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10
Jun
14

Learning to Fail

By Bucktown 2 Comments
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I wrote this blog, named it, and then typed the title into BING images. Apparently I'm not the only one with this thought.....

I wrote this blog, named it, and then typed the title into BING images. Apparently I’m not the only one with this thought…..

Obama is right. Not easy to say that, but something needs to be done about all the school shootings. It makes me sad that it happens almost every week for some reason and I’m laying in bed trying to figure what the hell is going on?? Plus I can’t sleep for some stupid reason. Insomnia sucks. I did just have a thought though and figured I’d share some of my wisdom… Jessica Alba is hot. Ha ha. Thats the only wise thing you’ll hear from me.

We are now seeing the “everyone gets a ribbon” generation all grown up. I think there is some good in it, and well who doesn’t want their little Timmy to be happy everyday??? Heres the problem sometimes no matter what you do, what you try, or what you say one day life is going to kick you in the nuts. It happens to every single person on the planet A LOT. Rich, poor, gay, straight, black, white, Mexican — EVERYONE. Wait.. When did Mexican become a color???

So what do you do when everything goes ka-poot?? Less swearing Mom. Check. Thats just it. When we take failure out of kids lives we rob them of the learning experience of how to deal with it. It is just as important as learning how to be a gracious winner, and in fact I believe even more important. Learning to fail is a skill that all great leaders, inventors, entrepreneurs LEARN in life. Look at Abraham Lincoln do you think he would have been the same leader at the time when a broken country needed him so badly had he not had those previous life experiences that taught him so much wisdom??? The best lessons are taught through/from failure so if you never learn how to fail, you miss out on a whole lot. Maybe we are seeing the results of that today. Just a thought..

I don’t have all the answers, but I know taking away the guns of people that didn’t do anything wrong isn’t a good one. I know that the mental problems of these kids are serious and need to be identified sooner or we need to find a way to stop creating these monsters. Parents want to “protect” their kids from all the bad, but sometimes we need shit to hit the fan. Just a little at first so you learn to cope with that, and then as you get older the shit gets thicker. It is going to happen. It just does. Drugs are not the answer either. These anti-depressants scare the crap out of me and many of these people that “snap” are on them. You can’t mess with emotions, but you can learn to control them and use them. All of them.

Just because you can’t get a girlfriend doesn’t mean you kill your 3 roommates with a knife and then go on a killing spree targeting sorority girls. What did this kid get taught growing up?? Think he earned that shiny BMW he was driving??? I’m not pointing the finger at his parents, I’m just sharing a thought. Maybe if he had learned to fail, he would have learned to pick himself back up becoming stronger in the process. You know the old saying “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.”

It is wonderful times we live in. I’d hate to think it any other way. We have computers, I-Pods, a better understanding of different cultures and each other than any other time in history. It just seems that maybe in our lets all have a charmed life attitude we are forgetting something. Bad happens. I don’t know why, but I do know the incredible lessons I’ve learned from those type of events happening in my life. I didn’t give up, I didn’t shoot 30 people and you want to know why??

It’s simple. My parents and family taught from day one to suck it up. That’s not PC Bucky. It’s not supposed to be. Learning to fail is just like every other skill one acquires in life. You have to practice it. You have to TRY to be able to fail so you are learning two things. Just don’t shelter your kids to much as it can’t be healthy. I see a theme in these kids that go nuts. They are wondering where their charmed life is, that was promised to them?? It isn’t reality. The world isn’t perfect and just because you’re here on planet Earth doesn’t mean you are going to fit in. Sometimes it isn’t easy either. You have to work at it.

You make your life charming. YOU make your life great. You. The sooner YOU learn this life lesson the sooner you will let the bad wash off you like water off a ducks back and focus on the good in the world/your life. Thus allowing you to fit into society and help make the world better, not make a headline for 3 days by senselessly hurting people you’ve never even met.

Fknbucky

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